Monday, April 03, 2006

Solitude vs Loneliness

On saturday, i was with my friends, my dear friends having a fun time..we were watching Along Came Polly and jus before that we had our lunch together..after the movie ended, i felt the need for fresh air..n i expected someone wud come to drop me..well, the unexpected happened..n i moved out alone..on the road..and suddenly i felt this void..a void which i cud nt comprehend...and i think i was feeeling lonely?? now i don't know...but sometimes i enjoy being alone..and that is solitude..

i take my own time to do things..go alone shopping or mayb jus watch TV alone, but i have noticed that when i have company i tend to behave differently..which is actually strange..why cant i behave consistently..the other day i was sittin alone and a friend saw me..she asked me whether i was tense or tired..n i was none..aimless wud be the right word to describe what i feel when am by myself..but not always..sometimes i do feel elated for no reason at all..

i wonder if i understand myself!!!

5 comments:

FailedGod said...

You are absolutely fine..
The feeling of elation indicates that you have started loving your own company and you are not alone...
Solitude does not mean loneliness, it means you are with the person, who matters the most, i.e. YOU!!

It is this relationship with yourself, that you perhaps start to discover yourself...
And when you think that you behave differently amongst your friend circle, it means you've found a good friend in yourself...

UnboundSpirit said...

You have described my feeling so well failedgod...yesterday too i was alone n the weather was so good..felt like taking a walk by myself..feeling of elation again..

bt loneliness is killing at time..how do u fight loneliness, i think for me, it appears because of boredom

FailedGod said...

Well boredom is something that is an integral part of a software engineer's life, especially if he/she is not at home...
5 days of hectic professional life, and 2 days of absolute nothingness.

Well if loneliness becomes too much for you, try not being alone. You might probably have friends, who understand the real You, and who can suggest something to you.
If not, try to be your good friend, try to understand You, yourself. Because in this world, there is only one person you know, on whom you can rely anytime, which is, CORRECT!!, You.

Lot of things to do in this world.
There are lots of people in this world, who dislike being alone much more than you. Try to spend time with them. In their happiness, you might find yours.

unknown said...

the perfect answer is start taking art lessons :)

UnboundSpirit said...

True, art fills the void!